With the North Carolina ban on gay marriage heavy in the news today, I’m inspired to share my thoughts on gay marriage. These are thoughts I’ve had for many years now, but let me go ahead and send out a disclaimer saying the views I share below are my personal views, and not intended to reflect any of the views by organizations or institutions (e.g. churches or my clothing store) I associate myself with.
Many people might read the title of this blog post and think I’m crazy, or think I’m not a true Christian. To that point allow me to note that I believe Jesus died on the cross for my sins, and I accepted his gift of salvation when I was in the second grade. I was baptized by immersion in middle school as a public profession of my faith. I believe the Bible is true, and that it is the inspired word of God. I also believe homosexuality is indeed a sin. Leviticus 18:22 explicitly states “You shall not lie with a male as with a woman. It is an abomination,” (New King James Version).
I DO NOT believe, however, that our government has a right to ban same-sex marriage. The fact that homosexuality is a sin is the first argument most Christians use against gay marriage. But just because something is a sin does not mean we should it make illegal. For example, adultery is a sin that destroys families and hurts a lot of people. I would even go so far as to say that the act of adultery has caused more harm in the world than the simple act of being gay. Yet we do not outlaw adultery. Another example is the freedom of speech, which is protected under the Bill of Rights. People curse with foul tongues, use the name of the Lord in vain, spread gossip and rumors, lie to one another, so on and so forth. Are these not all sins? Yet in this nation, we fervently defend our freedom of speech.
Sex before marriage is a sin, shall we outlaw that? Should we ban those who’ve had sex before marriage from ever getting married? The point is something that is immoral does not automatically warrant the need to make it illegal.
Another argument from opponents of gay marriage is that it destroys family values. To me, the most important family value is Love. What’s stopping same-sex partners from loving and nurturing their children in the same way heterosexual parents do?
There is another argument that says gay marriage destroys the sanctity of marriage, that marriage is supposed to be between a man and a woman, and if you allow same-sex marriage, where do you draw the line? Should polygamy be allowed? What about marriage between a person and their dog, or marriage between a person and their couch?
My opinion is that as long as the legal description of marriage is between two people, then you avoid the slippery slope of that last argument.
My point is although I believe homosexuality is a sin because I am a Christian, I also believe banning same-sex marriage unjustly discriminates against homosexuals and prevents them from enjoying things that heterosexual married couples enjoy, such as tax benefits, sharing company medical benefits with a spouse, etc.
Let gay people get married. We have more important things to worry about.
P.S. I’m tired of so-called Christians yelling things like “Faggots go to hell” or “Being gay will send you to hell.” Here in Houston, TX I see them with their picket signs and their bullhorns on street corners all the time. We are all sinners, and we all deserve to go to hell. God hates sin, but his love for ALL OF US is unconditional, and that is why he sent his son to die for us on the cross. As Christians, let us stop judging people, and let us accept them as Christ accepted. Do you not realize all that hooting, hollering, and hating is pushing people away from Christ?
That is all. Thanks for reading.